|
200+ Examples of Tolerations in your life that shouldn’t be…
1. Not enough storage space for all my office files
2. A desk full of stacks of papers
3. Peeling wallpaper
4. A partner who is not unconditionally constructive with my child or children
5. Being overweight A web page that needs updating
6. Hair that doesn’t look good
7. A guest bedroom that needs cleaning up (it looks like a storage room)
8. A partner’s messy office
9. A kitchen that needs a dishwasher (and it shouldn’t be me)
10. Not enough time scheduled for dreaming
11. Not enough time spent in the garden
12. Not setting time aside to meditate
13. Not saving money every month
14. Not getting paid on time by all of my clients
15. Clients who cancel appointments at the last moment
16. Excessive clutter Storage shed that is so full you can’t get into it
17. Investments that should be reevaluated but haven’t been
18. Needing a water purifier
19. Solar panels on the roof that need fixing
20. House walls that need painting
21. Kitchen floor that needs new tile
22. Not having a spare key for the car
23. Not having a well pump for the well
24. The fact that I must park four blocks from work
25. The no-leadership style of my boss
26. A half-finished kitchen
27. Tripping over my dog’s toys throughout the house
28. Having to get up each morning before the sun rises
29. Evening telephone solicitations
30. Limited trunk space in my car
31. Mortgage and car payments
32. Negative attitudes of people with whom I work
33. Needy relatives
34. Poor customer service and inadequate responses from vendors
35. Eating too much sugar and salt
36. Low levels of reserves
37. Too many possessions that need to be cleaned
38. A backyard that is an eyesore
39. A constant need for home maintenance and repairs The invasiveness of
40. People or institutions that don’t return my calls My lack of creative outlet
41. Being part of a profession whose goals and standards I can no longer relate to
42. Knowing all my debt will not be paid off for another 10 years
43. Inadequate retirement fund
44. Demands on my time by my children
45. A former spouse who does not contribute time or money to raising our children
46. The insanity of television newscasts Not having replacement belts for my vacuum cleaner
47. Mildew in the grout of the tiles in my shower Mildew on the plastic shower curtain
48. A crack in the sealer around the base of the shower
49. The outdated or broken tile in the bathroom
50. Missing lights on the medicine cabinet Spiderwebs in the corners
51. Stuff on top of my fridge that has not been put away since I had that Christmas party 10 years ago
52. The dog hair that shows up somewhere else the minute I clean it up
53. Keeping the end table by my chair cluttered in order to put my coffee cup on it because if it’s cleaned off the cat will lie on it, leaving no room for my coffee cup
54. Cat food on the kitchen table because it’s the only surface the dog won’t get to
55. New slipcovers that aren’t quite the right shade
56. An area rug that doesn’t match the living room Thirty-year-old wall-to-wall carpeting that resists cleaning attempts
57. A dining room table currently covered with stuff not related to dining
58. Whites that have yellowed because of hard water
59. A humidifier that needs a new filter to work properly
60. An inherited chest of drawers that has a broken piece of veneer
61. Fixing one toleration by putting up a window shade only to have it become a new toleration because it doesn’t fit properly
62. A cat that lies on my wrists when I’m working on the computer
63. A living room window that is cracked and so dirty I can’t see out of it when the sun is shining
64. Having a nice attic but not being able to get into it because the steps are falling apart
65. Cleaning supplies that won’t fit under the sink
66. Spending eight hours a day in a room with no window
67. A coworker who has more tolerations than I do and spends all day talking about them
68. Being the office dumping ground because I’m such a good listener
69. Having a sugar and caffeine addiction
70. Taking antidepressants and experiencing more severe PMS symptoms than before
71. Taking antidepressants and gaining weight because I can’t seem to care about changing my eating habits any more Wearing only what’s comfortable even if I don’t like the way I look Squirrels getting in the bird feeder
72. Having gotten very good at acting patient and hating every minute of it
73. Not making time for art or music or crafts
74. Water stains on the walls
75. A roof that is only half reshingled
76. Rusty iron porch railings
77. Trim on the house that needs to be painted
78. House that needs to be repainted
79. Being deep in debt with no end in sight
80. Not having a coach because I can’t afford one
81. Not being able to do much about most of my tolerations because they need money to be resolved
82. Not having a nice stereo
83. Having a saddle and riding boots and no horse
84. Loving to travel and not knowing when I’ll next be able to take a trip somewhere
85. Not being able to come up with a concrete way to describe what I’m doing as a coach
86. Having so many talents and interests that I’m constantly being pulled in lots of directions
87. Being very good at maintaining acquaintances but having few close friends
88. Not knowing how to build a network or not being able to figure it out in a way that isn’t too overwhelming
89. Being easily overwhelmed and trying to act like I’m not
90. Being surrounded by people that think following your dreams is needless, self-indulgent activity Throwing away money on things I don’t really need or use
91. Being from and living in a community where it’s ingrained in the collective consciousness that the more you’re tolerating, the more righteous you are
92. Hating the way animals are processed for food and yet not being able to give up eating beef because it’s comfort food
93. Fearing that if I move to someplace I love to visit, it will be ruined forever
94. Knowing that I’m the only reliable sibling and that when the time comes that my parents need to be cared for, it’s all going to fall on me
95. Knowing I can’t afford to move anywhere even if I wanted to Knowing that techniques like affirmations, self-hypnosis, and guided imagery work for me but still not practicing them
96. Not having 20 clients that are like my one wonderful client who will pay me $200 a month (or more)
97. Not having a garage for my car Large parts of my lawn being covered in weeds
98. Writing a volunteer weekly column for the local newspaper for months, wanting to be paid for it now, and not knowing what to do about it
99. The fact that my laptop computer has needed a new battery for months
100. Having boxes of things that need to be donated but that I haven’t taken to the donation center
101. Being so intent on being true to myself that it gets in my way
102. Not having enough time to read and understand all that I want to
103. Believing things that people say when I know they are not true for me
104. Spending 95 percent of my waking hours struggling with frustration of some sort or another
105. Being hungry but not wanting to stop what I am doing to get something to eat
106. Having more books than bookshelves
107. Working at a job I don’t enjoy
108. Having friends who are almost all 10 to 20 years older than I am
109. Not knowing how to ask for space from people without getting snippy because I’ve waited too long to ask
110. Having health insurance that doesn’t pay for massage therapy or other alternative therapies
111. Having lower back problems from sitting in a nonergonomic chair all day
112. Having one of those combination copier/scanner/answering/fax machines when all I really need is a flatbed scanner
113. Having someone in my life who always tries to tell me what to do
114. Not knowing how to tell someone in my life to stop hurting my feelings without hurting his or her feelings
115. Feeling that if my parents died tomorrow, it would be catastrophic for me, even though I think I’ve been trying to plan ahead
116. Living in an un-insulated house in a place where it gets really hot or really cold
117. Being designated the keeper of the peace in the family
118. Being really sentimental
119. Having a poorly designed kitchen
120. Having a neat-looking 1950s stove or oven, only part of which works
121. Being crabby a lot
122. Not having a friend in the same town that I can just call up on the spur of the moment to go out with to do something
123. Feeling like I don’t really have time to do things that are just for fun
124. Living too far away from places I enjoy visiting: museums, specialty shops, like-minded organizations, but not wanting to move
125. Living with a constant inner sense of deep frustration
126. The lack of sunlight in winter Fear of ice on the sidewalks
127. Living in a dangerous area
128. Beating myself up because I can’t seem to apply all the things I know to myself
129. Not getting enough deep belly laughing every day
130. Having brains and talent but not knowing of any means of making a living from them
131. Feeling victimized and helpless and hating myself when I see others being victims too
132. Experiencing lots of synchronicity with tiny things every day, but not with the big important things
133. Not having a life plan that seems doable
134. Forty-year-old carpet in my bedroom and a mismatched bedroom set
135. The pile of stuff on top of the dresser that I can’t seem to throw away
136. Not having organized Christmas decorations
137. A brown splotch on the wall from where I killed an insect
138. Having insects show up every now and then high on my bedroom walls where I can’t reach them
139. Having insect invasions every summer
140. Visible dust collected on the top of the ceiling fan in the bedroom
141. Not being able to see my clock or radio without my glasses
142. A partner who chews food noisily
143. A partner who hates where we live
144. No table light in my bedroom
145. No reserve of income
146. Not taking a holiday every year
147. Not visiting friends or family as often as I’d like to
148. Having old, worn-out shoes
149. A car that needs washing
150. A back bumper that needs replacing
151. Clothing of dissatisfying quality
152. Living on a noisy main road
153. Not having a strong community
154. No recreation in my life
155. Not going dancing regularly
156. Underselling myself
157. Shelves waiting to go up
158. New light fittings waiting to go up
159. Cupboard door hanging off
160. Sock drawer broken
161. Upstairs room still waiting to be upgraded
162. A kitchen that has room only for one person at a time
163. Carpet that needs cleaning
164. Insufficient income Few visitors to the house
165. Weak networks
166. No fun opportunities
167. Credit card debt Lack of discipline in myself
168. An echo in my phone line
169. My spouse’s tone of voice with me
170. A client who changes appointments frequently
171. Too much e-mail Clothing that doesn’t complement my body shape
172. My frying pan–everything sticks
173. A phone headset that doesn’t fit my head or ear properly
174. A lack of consistent income
175. Telemarketing calls at inconvenient times
176. Cell phone battery that needs replacing
177. A stock of magazines and not enough time to read them
178. A lack of support in my local professional group
179. My tenant’s late rent payments
180. A lack of closet space in my home
181. Too much television
182. A lack of communication with my spouse
183. Too much paperwork
184. A lack of an up-to-date business plan Fleas on my pets
185. A lack of clients Software that doesn’t work
186. A messy studio/home/bedroom/other room
187. A web site that doesn’t reflect me
188. Cooking dinner every night when I don’t want to
189. People who go beyond the bounds of decency
190. A dent in the front door of my car
191. An overcrowded filing cabinet
192. Not having a car I enjoy driving
193. Feeling depressed and not taking enough action
194. Dissatisfaction with my sexual relationship with my partner
195. Unsorted boxes of stuff in my closet
196. Holding on to clothes I don’t really like
197. Gophers tunneling under my new front lawn
198. Termite damage to my house
199. A floor that needs refinishing
200. A broken sun visor in my car
201. Holding on to some stocks that have lost me a lot of money
202. My fear of analyzing my investments and taking the steps need to get on the right track
203. Doing without an office assistant even though I need one
204. Not getting enough sleep to feel rested
205. My attitude that I should be able to handle everything on my own
206. People who criticize me
207. Not making enough money to afford what I want
208. A garage so full of stuff I can hardly move around in it
209. Windows that need cleaning
210. A garden shed that is rusting and needs replacing
211. Mildew on my roses
212. Lack of flowers in front of the house
213. Bedroom furniture that is no longer up to my standards
214. A backyard that needs landscaping
215. Not working out at least three times a week
216. A neighbor’s pet that poops in my yard
